For so long I felt the need to get approval from others for no matter what I was doing. I always needed everyone’s opinion on what I was doing, about to do or thoughts. It’s normal to ask for feedback, but I had a deep need for other people’s approval. It was kind of toxic needing it so badly. Then something happened. I stepped into my power, the rest is history.
Let me backtrack a little. At one time, I was at a point in my life where I felt like I was running around in circles. I had ideas, tried to make them happen as I half-assed it and then questioned myself every inch of the way. I could never make a decision for the life of me either! Even down to clothing shopping. My energy was all over the place and I had no idea how to reel it in.
I think I may have always been like this, but there was a point when it was really getting to me. I was rarely content with what I was doing and always had to tell the world about it. I always needed to vent, get opinions and validation. Can you relate to that feeling? It’s frustrating as heck.
Through my spiritual growth, something happened that changed all of this. It was mostly due to me finding my worth and voice. That what I had to say and want had meaning. That I could be my own true north. That there was a knowing inside me that wanted to lead me. It was fighting to be heard but I wasn’t used to this voice. It was so strong, reassuring and made me feel like I knew what I was doing. It was the voice of my intuition and deeper than that it was the voice of love.
The more I listened to this voice, the sturdier my posture felt. The more I listened, the more it spoke. The more I let it guide me, the less approval I needed. It helped me to find my true north and it’s what I’ve needed for so long. Now I feel more content, sure of myself and where I’m going more than I ever have. That feeling is worth everything.
The need for approval can be like a disease. I remember being in my last network marketing company and literally living for the approval of others. Especially my upline leaders. Everything I did, I felt the need to post about it on social media so that they could see I was working hard….omg what the heck was I doing? It’s sad now when I think about it. I did so much in my business because I needed recognition and it wasn’t the right drive for me. It played on my ego and left love in the dust. It told me that I needed to hustle hard to get love from others. That period of time was a long hard, tough time for me to unlearn. It’s what caused me to wake up with anxiety and go to bed feeling like I hadn’t done enough in my biz.
I remember feeling so much unfulfillment at that time, despite the fact that I was very successful earning trips, a full time income and cars. It was a new low for me as all I could do was try my best at pleasing others. If you can relate to this story and it’s something you’re going through now, take a moment to step back and ask yourself if this is your true desired feeling at the end of the day. Because it sure wasn’t mine. Thank God I realized that sooner than later.
Now I stand as a woman that needs no validation from anyone. Sure it’s always nice to bounce ideas off of others but you can be damn sure I’m picky as hell about who I do the bouncing off of. Always be careful with this or people can trample your ideas and suck your energy. Their energy can’t be low or needy. If it is, then I’d steer clear. Always have a power posse of people around you that lift you up and force you to level up.
I’ve been so hurt in the past seeking validation from others. Needing approval and that pat on the back. When I wouldn’t get what I needed, I felt like a failure, like I did something wrong. When in actual fact the problem was that I was looking for the feeling I wanted outside of myself.
When we can work on ourselves harder than anything, it radiates to the world outside of us. We become stronger and therefore become ready for the next stage of happiness in our lives.
If you ask me, that’s worth everything.
In so much love and light,